“The Narcissist is Using My Child’s Words Against Me in Court”

When your child’s innocent words are twisted, stripped of context, and used to present a false reality, it’s time to take strategic action.

Narcissistic abusers crave control over you, your children, and how others perceive you and your relationship with your children.

They will use anything and everything, including your child’s innocent words, for image management.

This is a hard, ugly truth for many survivors to face.

As you navigate the family court system, remember that most family court professionals are simply not trained to understand the dynamics of domestic violence, and cannot spot the manipulation.

Can I Use Strategy When My Child’s Words Are Used Against Me In Court?

Whether the narcissist coaches your child to repeat certain phrases, takes a one off comment out of context and creates an entire narrative around it, or uses normal child behavior to paint a story of “alienation” and gate keeping, know that there is a strategic way to respond and go forward.

In the actual court room, remember to react neutrally. Don’t allow your emotions, however strong they may be, to rule the scene. Use grounding techniques to calm your nervous system. It may feel like reacting to the lies will show the judge that you have been wrongfully accused, but in fact, it often convinces court professionals that you are not reliable or emotionally healthy.

Document even more using documentation techniques that allow you to bring factual context into the courtroom. Our Certified High Conflict Divorce Coaches are trained to help you establish a documentation strategy that works for you. If you would prefer an online course, the Documentation Workshop is available for instant download, and will help you set up a structured system.

Build your support system. Your ability to think clearly, function strategically, and care for your children with empathy is dependent on how much support you have for yourself. Seek whatever modalities of care are most effective for you.

Certified High Conflict Divorce Coaches are specifically trained to help you establish what you need to function optimally during the most stressful time of your life. Find a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach Near You.