From Survivor to Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach: Here’s Why It’s Personal For So Many Professionals
“It was during my own child custody case that I recognized the need for divorce coaches and advocates who could make real and measurable differences in the lives of those targeted by high-conflict litigants.
I remember feeling helpless in a court system that prioritized parental rights over my child’s right to safety. I have created the program that I wish existed when I first started my child custody battle in 2009.” - Tina Swithin, Founder, High Conflict Divorce Certification Program
Tina certainly didn’t plan to be an advocate and coach but life gave her lemons. If you’re here, it’s likely life gave you lemons too.
Our Stories Are Our Strength & Our Motivation to Serve
Like Tina, many graduates of the High Conflict Divorce Certification Program came into the program because they had experienced narcissistic abuse, high conflict divorce, and devastating custody battles.
Through the years on the battlefield, they:
Gathered rich resources about narcissistic personality disorder, trauma, parenting, and healing;
Gained insight, intuition, and knowledge about navigating the family court system;
Developed a third sense for decoding the narcissist’s verbal/body language, what court professionals actually mean, and how to respond;
Gained intense compassion for all victims of narcissistic abuse and the family court system and felt a deep desire to help others.
Because many of our coaches have experienced it, they get it. They don’t require clients to explain themselves, defend their actions, or justify their reasoning. There is an unspoken compassion and understanding between coach and client.
Further, coaches understand the complexities of narcissistic abuse and offer trauma-informed coaching, making sure that clients are given needed respect and care.
“I Heal As I Help Others”
Many High Conflict Divorce Coaches in our community share that they find deeper healing for themselves as they work with clients.
“There are times when I experience triggers as I work with my clients, but I know how to handle triggers now and I’m able to work through them easily.
What’s special to me, is that as I work with my clients, I feel my own heart and mind healing from the narcissistic abuse I endured during my high conflict divorce. As I validate and empower another survivor, I am also empowering myself. I heal as I help others. I didn’t anticipate that, but I’m grateful for it.”
Do You Feel Called To Use Your Story for Good?
If you feel called to begin your career and journey as a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach, or if you’d just like more information, now is the time to learn more.
