I Want to Be a Divorce Coach But I’m Afraid It Will Be Used Against Me in Court
“I want to be able to help guide other women after my own experience. I was blindsided by the reality of family court and ill equipped to navigate the challenges. Divorce is listed as one of life’s biggest stressors, and I want to make sure others have support while walking this path.”
This is one of the most common and honest fears I hear from survivors.
If you have survived narcissistic abuse, you already understand how easily motives can be twisted, intentions questioned, and reality distorted. Anything meaningful to you can become a point of attack. Healing. Parenting. Boundaries. Education. Even the desire to help others.
So it makes complete sense to worry that pursuing a future career as a divorce coach could be misrepresented or weaponized in family court.
That fear is not dramatic or paranoid. It is informed by experience.
Why This Fear Is So Common
Survivors of narcissistic abuse often learn how to stay small to stay safe. You become skilled at flying below the radar, minimizing reactions, and avoiding anything that could trigger retaliation.
Building a profession centered on advocacy, education, and supporting other survivors can feel like the opposite of safety. It can feel like visibility. For someone who has already endured retaliation, litigation abuse, or character attacks, visibility does not feel neutral.
It feels risky.
Let’s Center Ourselves in Truth
Here is the reality survivors already know: A high conflict or narcissistic ex can attempt to weaponize almost anything in family court.
Careers, education, therapy, volunteer work, advocacy, and even personal growth have all been distorted by abusive exes. In the context of post separation abuse, attempts to undermine a survivor’s livelihood or credibility can show up as litigation abuse, financial abuse, harassment, stalking, or alienation based accusations.
Acknowledging this reality does not mean giving up your future. It means making decisions with clarity rather than fear.
Should I Become a High Conflict Divorce Coach?
There is no universal answer. This community is rooted in empowering survivors to make informed choices grounded in truth, radical acceptance, and self compassion.
For some survivors, the right choice is to wait until their case is resolved or more stable. For others, pursuing education and certification while still navigating court is part of reclaiming identity, agency, and purpose.
What matters most is understanding this:
You cannot control what an abusive ex chooses to do. You can control how you prepare, how you show up, and how you build your future.
Many survivors who enter coach training do so with their eyes open. They understand the risks. They also understand the cost of staying frozen indefinitely.
Turning pain into purpose does not make you reckless. It makes you intentional.
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Are you divorcing a narcissist or navigating a child custody battle with a high conflict individual? If you are a survivor walking this difficult path, we encourage you to explore our online courses at therulebookacademy.com or connect with a graduate from our coach training program at hcdivorcecoach.com/category.
If you are a survivor looking to turn your pain into purpose, we invite you to explore our eight week certification course at hcdivorcecoach.com.
