I Need a High Conflict Divorce Coach But I’m a Victim of Financial Abuse. What Now?
When a narcissistic ex partner cuts off your access to money, monitors your bank accounts, or controls your spending, it can feel impossible to get the support you need, especially during a custody battle. But there are safe and creative ways to access the help you deserve.
What Is Financial Abuse?
Financial or economic abuse is a common tactic in narcissistic abuse and high conflict divorce. It can include:
Withholding or delaying support payments and court ordered reimbursements
Blocking access to bank accounts or credit
Interfering with your employment or career opportunities
Using litigation as a weapon to drain your financial resources
This form of abuse not only threatens your ability to meet basic needs, but it also cuts you off from critical support, like hiring a therapist, legal expert, or Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach.
The Impact of Financial Abuse in Custody Battles
Attorney fees alone can be overwhelming. Add to that the trauma, confusion, and constant legal maneuvering, and it is no wonder survivors often feel depleted and alone. That is exactly the goal of financial abuse: to keep you disempowered and isolated.
How to Access Support When Funds Are Restricted
If financial abuse is limiting your ability to get help, you are not out of options. Many survivors have found creative and empowering ways to access support, including:
Asking safe family or friends to gift coaching sessions for birthdays or holidays
Contacting a domestic violence agency to request funding for coaching
Seeking support from a trusted faith community to sponsor sessions
Connecting with a women’s empowerment or advocacy organization for help
Why a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach Matters
Most of our coaches have lived through their own difficult custody journeys. They understand the system not only from personal experience, but through professional training. They complete our eight week certification program, which is grounded in real world strategy and trauma informed practices. The program includes seven in depth case studies that offer a wide lens into how the system works and how to navigate it. You are not alone, and you deserve someone who truly gets it.
A Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach understands the unique challenges of post separation abuse and high conflict custody battles. They offer strategic guidance, validation, and tools that no traditional therapist or lawyer may provide. Support should never be out of reach because of abuse.
If financial abuse is part of your story, know that help exists and there are ways to reach it. One option is to apply for free divorce coaching through our program. These are student coaches or coach graduates looking for additional experience. Please know that divorce coaches cannot offer legal advice or therapeutic services, but they can serve as your strategy partner. To apply for free coaching during our next session (Fall 2025), click here and use password: VClientM21
